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Waiting

It seems that half my days now seem to be composed of a lot of waiting for Karen. As in, she says she is doing one thing, and then it ends up taking like, three times as long one would expect her to take for her to come back from it. And it is really frustrating. I don’t know why she doesn’t decide to tell me that she is going to come back ‘a little later’ than expected either. She just… seems to make me wait. With no other information as to when she’s coming back. Last night she says she’s gone to dinner. At at 11. What time did she come back? I don’t know, because I went to sleep at 2. Three hours after she said she was going to go eat. Three hours. In that amount of time she could have showered, eaten dinner, played with her sisters, read a book, done laundry or any other amount of things, and yet she can’t take literally two minutes to come upstairs and tell me that she’s doing something else. What’s the logical conclusion? That she probably just went to sleep or something, or her internet connection wasn’t working… I don’t even know what took her so long.
The problem I have with this is the lack of courtesy she seems to display everytime she does this. She is a very good person, yet this seems to be the ridiculously big flaw that is always there. She always ends up leaving me waiting, almost all the time. It’s beyond the point of ‘sorry, had some things to do’, and now reached the point of “you’ve done this so many times, how can you still not realize that there are people waiting for you that don’t know when to expect you anymore”. And I don’t understand WHY she does it. Does she not understand what it feels like to wait for someone for hours on end without knowing when to expect them, because it’s been so late? Does she do it because she thinks they don’t care? She KNOWS that her mother does it a lot, and how annoying it is when she is late to pick her up. So why does she decide to do this to other people. A simple “ill be back a bit later, doing x, or y or both”. Does not take long, and I’m sure that three HOURS is enough time to find a small window to do that. It feels like it’s past where she can change this though. She’s been doing it for so long already… I have no clue what to do. Maybe later on in life she’ll realize that this habit of leaving people hanging is not a desirable trait. Which reminds me; she did this to a person she was going to have an INTERVIEW with. She even showed me the email; the person expressed concern and worry over the fact that she did not come, and left no information as to why she didn’t. If this disgusting habit keeps up, she may find herself struggling to manage her time properly, simply because she doesn’t acknowledge that other people do not have all the time in the world to wait for her. This is beyond anger now. This is disappointment.